Saturday, March 10, 2012

Lolita Fashion is not "pedo bait"

Recently I came across this disturbingly insulting review of a anime convention and it's attendees. In said article the author describes one of the lolita's as a "pedophile's wet dream" and in the comments the words "pedo bait" are mentioned over and over. "Why else would you dress like that?" Now, I'd like us all to take a moment and really think about that statement, that grown up adults are dressing up to attract pedophiles...on purpose.

Done? Ok, hopefully common sense has told you that is a silly concept. If not, let's talk about what a pedophile is. Wikipedia states a pedophile as psychiatric disorder in adults or late adolescents (persons age 16 or older) typically characterized by a primary or exclusive sexual interest in prepubescent children (generally age 13 years or younger, though onset of puberty may vary).
The American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV) defines pedophilia as recurrent sexually arousing fantasies, impulsive desires, or behaviors involving sexual acts with a child and that occur over a period of at least six months. In most cases, the pedophile is at least sixteen years of age and at least five years older than the child. Those who suffer from pedophilia have a compulsion to abuse young children.

Nowhere does it say that pedophiles are attracted to the clothing that children stereotypically wear or are attracted to adults who might dress like children. Most people who dress in lolita look like adults, with curves, and I don't think could be confused with an 8 year old. And I really don't see children wearing clothes like this all, unless it happens to be Easter.

Now, that doesn't mean that men aren't attracted to the women dressed in the outfits. It doesn't mean that there aren't perverts who think it is the sexiest thing ever and who think of it as a fetish. In fact, I'm positive there are. Blaming this on the women who wear it though, is uncalled for and disgusting. Lolita's don't dress like that to attract men, if we did we would dress completely differently. We wouldn't cover up 85% of our bodies. We dress in lolita because we want to, and we love it. It has nothing to do with anybody else. We don't enjoy the negative attention and the rude comments we get while wearing it. That reviewer said he wanted to marry that lolita when she stopped dressing like that, so obviously he found her attractive, so is he a pedophile?
My point is, this is a stupid ignorant comment that just makes the user look like a closed minded moron. Pedophiles are not attracted to adults, no matter how they are dressed. I also feel like the person using the term "pedo bait" are taking the seriousness away from a disorder that hurts and destroys people's lives. It is not a term to throw around. So don't, and everyone will be happier.

Sunday, March 4, 2012

Vivid Beauty contacts review!

So I ordered some prescription color lenses from Vivid Beauty after a friend of mine suggested them. I have really bad vision- and an astigmatism on top of that, so I have trouble finding colored lenses for anything under $100. This site Vivid Beauty has a large selection of lenses and many in my prescription. The best part? They ALL cost around $20, regardless of the prescription. So my -6.5 prescription cost me only $18 shipped.

The seller is inside the USA so shipping only took a couple days and I got my lenses securely packaged with a contact lens case! Now, I ordered just the prescription lenses even though I have an astigmatism because I only planned on wearing them for a few hours at a time, and since allergies make my eyes sensitive anyway- I figured this would be perfect for photo shoots and such.

Their order form was simple and I sent it in then received an invoice request from Paypal ( you can pay other ways of payment). I ordered the blue Nudy series and while they don't completely cover my eye color (which is light brown) they still make by eyes blue and blend well with my eye color under it.

Sorry the color isn't quite true- but you get a good idea of before and after.
I wore these for about 3 hours yesterday and had no problems! I highly recommend you try them- since you have little to lose and so much to gain if it works out! Less than $20 is very little to spend on colored prescription contacts! I am so happy I can finally wear colored contacts for my cosplay and actually be able to see out of them. Now I don't recommend wearing regular lenses if you have astigmatism because it can be bad for your eyes, but if you have a prescription (or even none at all) this is a great place to find contacts!

Check them out at the link above :)