Saturday, March 10, 2012

Lolita Fashion is not "pedo bait"

Recently I came across this disturbingly insulting review of a anime convention and it's attendees. In said article the author describes one of the lolita's as a "pedophile's wet dream" and in the comments the words "pedo bait" are mentioned over and over. "Why else would you dress like that?" Now, I'd like us all to take a moment and really think about that statement, that grown up adults are dressing up to attract pedophiles...on purpose.

Done? Ok, hopefully common sense has told you that is a silly concept. If not, let's talk about what a pedophile is. Wikipedia states a pedophile as psychiatric disorder in adults or late adolescents (persons age 16 or older) typically characterized by a primary or exclusive sexual interest in prepubescent children (generally age 13 years or younger, though onset of puberty may vary).
The American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV) defines pedophilia as recurrent sexually arousing fantasies, impulsive desires, or behaviors involving sexual acts with a child and that occur over a period of at least six months. In most cases, the pedophile is at least sixteen years of age and at least five years older than the child. Those who suffer from pedophilia have a compulsion to abuse young children.

Nowhere does it say that pedophiles are attracted to the clothing that children stereotypically wear or are attracted to adults who might dress like children. Most people who dress in lolita look like adults, with curves, and I don't think could be confused with an 8 year old. And I really don't see children wearing clothes like this all, unless it happens to be Easter.

Now, that doesn't mean that men aren't attracted to the women dressed in the outfits. It doesn't mean that there aren't perverts who think it is the sexiest thing ever and who think of it as a fetish. In fact, I'm positive there are. Blaming this on the women who wear it though, is uncalled for and disgusting. Lolita's don't dress like that to attract men, if we did we would dress completely differently. We wouldn't cover up 85% of our bodies. We dress in lolita because we want to, and we love it. It has nothing to do with anybody else. We don't enjoy the negative attention and the rude comments we get while wearing it. That reviewer said he wanted to marry that lolita when she stopped dressing like that, so obviously he found her attractive, so is he a pedophile?
My point is, this is a stupid ignorant comment that just makes the user look like a closed minded moron. Pedophiles are not attracted to adults, no matter how they are dressed. I also feel like the person using the term "pedo bait" are taking the seriousness away from a disorder that hurts and destroys people's lives. It is not a term to throw around. So don't, and everyone will be happier.

1 comment:

  1. I would like to clarify in this that u made a sterotypical annalyisis just like the commentors... albiet more subtle and less understood. Not all pedophiles have a "compulsion to abuse young children" being sexually aroused is only one of many possible "triggers." These triggers are the first step in abuse cycles. the cumpulsion to abuse in an abuse cycle occures 2 steps later in "planning." Now not all pedophiles even get past step one in an abuse cycle and never reach the compulsion to actually abuse, and never fantisize about abusing. Infact, a very small portion of pedophiles actually abuse a child. And most people that do are NOT pedophiles at all but are sexual predators and target children for profit, or because they can be an easier target. In wich case dressing as a lolita can be jail bait for a convicted sex offendor who thinks of those close as their "trigger." But not neccessarily pedophilic jail bait.

    My only reason for commenting, please do not classify all pedophiles as compulsive abusors of children when a vast majority are not, all it does is spread paranoia and false ideas that produce uneeded hate and prevents research into understanding pedophilia enough to mabye someday cure it, or prevent abuse in sexual predators.